Rainbows for Noah: Do You Have Kids?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Do You Have Kids?

well, we were finally asked the dreaded question. (you're bound to find at least one curious person at your ten year college reunion.)

so, do you have any kids?

awkward silence.

nervous glances shared with the husband as we tried to non-verbally communicate with each other...how shall we answer that? how much detail does this near-stranger need to know? are we ready to break open this tender topic?

then, i spoke.

"yes. we have a baby boy who is in heaven."

deep breath. and you know what? with those words came a deep sense of relief and pride.

we have a son.

four months ago tonight our perfect angel entered the world.

happy birthday, sweet one. mama and daddy are so very proud of you.

2 comments:

M.E. MastersonOctober 6, 2013 at 9:54 AM
This is always an awkward thing for myself. I get this question all the time...sometimes I answer and sometimes I don't. What I mean is my current hubby and I have no children but I did in my previous life so when I answer I am not being untruthful just how do I feel today about the answer emotionally. It has been over 16 yrs since they left me and it is still a difficult question to answer.....depends on the situation I guess....Prayers for you both today!
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UnknownOctober 11, 2013 at 10:19 PM
I ran into this recently, jay and I were at his coworker'a house and they had 2 little kids...when asked the "do you have any kids", it was awkward. I could see jay struggling to express it without too much explanation. I finally pipped up and said "we do have a son, but he passed away at 2 days old". Felt good to acknowledge him!
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i'm a mama.

my name is mccayla and i'm part of the club no one wants to belong to - i lost my baby.

noah hudson butler was born a healthy 7 pounds, 5 ounces on june 5, 2013. the first 24 hours with him were another dimension of bliss. our dreams had come true - we were parents. and we were the happiest we've ever been.

then the nightmare began. he started having trouble breathing and things went from bad to worse. 12 days later he was diagnosed with an extremely rare, and fatal, condition called alveolar capillary dysplasia. there was nothing else the doctors could do.

we said goodbye to our sweet boy that night, june 18, 2013, after spending the holiest of days with the one who changed our world forever.

this is my journey of living in the tension between despair and hope as i navigate through a life no one ever imagines. and it's what loss looks like from here.