A Living Hell with Heaven Breakthroughs

the shame and guilt are heavy in this post.  i thought about skipping parts but i must honor our truth. and perhaps someone else sees themselves in the decisions we made. and that will make it worth it to share. but it's a source of great pain for me.

after noah got settled into his room at seattle children's and we had some time with him, we went home. 

we went fucking home. 

how did we even do that? we actually left him there. this really goes to show how much we were in shock and completely bewildered. because knowing what i know now, i never would have left. 

john and i actually just talked about this a bit at noah's place on his birthday. it comes up now and then. we don't understand how we could have driven home. but like with everything in life, we do what know is best with the information we have at the time. and looking back we remember doctors and nurses encouraging us to get some rest at home, as it could be a long haul. they assured us they would call us with any change and we were only a 30 minute drive away. 

we actually never spent the night at the hospital with him. my mom stayed over more times than us. the decisions whether to stay or go that entire time he was in the hospital were excruciating. when we were there we felt in the way in his tiny room with huge machines. and when we were home all we wanted was to be with noah. we never could win. but either way, nothing would have changed anything. 

but back to that first night after we went home. we had been asleep for a couple hours when our phones rang. we shot up like a heart attack. the news wasn't good. we had better get back to the hospital quick.

we raced in the car. john said a prayer.

moments later, while we were driving, we got another call. his oxygen sats were actually stabilizing for no known reason. (john and i exchanged glances. WTF?)

but by the time we arrived to the hospital, on the early, early morning of june 8th, his oxygen levels were dramatically dropping again. there was crazy hustle and bustle all around his room. the head doctor was on the phone getting second opinions on what to do. all we could do was watch the chaos through the glass of noah's door. helpless. 

i was frantically texting anyone i could find in my phone to pray. we were desperate. 

the decision was made that he needed to go on a lung bypass called ECMO. life support. the machine would essentially do the work for his lungs, so they could take a break. (his lungs were not working. and he wouldn't survive without it.)

he immediately went into surgery to have two ginormous catheters inserted into the side of his neck where his main arteries were, among other intense things i couldn't even fathom. 

and we waited in the hospital starbucks. all the worse case scenarios flooding our minds.   

there was no denying it. this was fucking serious. (sorry i'm being an 'ol cuss. no other words seem strong enough.)

at last we heard he was out of surgery and it had gone well. 

now the hellish waiting game. all we could do was wait and see if he could stay strong and eventually ween off the bypass machine.

the next ten days were ... i don't know how to describe it using words. but what i can tell you is that my chest feels like an elephant is sitting on it as i recall the memories. and i'm terribly distracted with my PTSD looking at the machine above my head in the picture above. see those little purple numbers in the far right corner? those were his oxygen levels, and they were a matter of life and death. we watched them obsessively.

for the first few days he was on the ECMO he seemed to sort of settle down. stabilize. rest. we began to find a rhythm.

small victories. devastating blows backwards. divine interventions and lifeline-type support from our loved ones. we were living everyday in a hell that caught glimpses of heaven.

and rainbows. so many rainbows.

see you tomorrow.

More of the Story

i can't believe i haven't written on the blog since october.

well. i'm back. 

truth is i've never left. i'm still here. always will be. because noah won't be. and as long as i am living my firstborn baby's huge void will be felt. 

even when i'm holding another baby. oddly enough, those might even be the times when the void is most palpable. in the quiet of the night, feeding his baby brother. 

the last few days, for noah's 3rd birthday, i've re-posted noah's birth story that i wrote a couple years ago. it's been sweet to revisit those tender, miraculous moments. the best of moments. 

i've realized however the story sort of stops just before it really begins. i'm not entirely sure why. maybe i wanted to end on a good note, stay positive. maybe i didn't have the courage to play back the nightmare. maybe i wanted to selfishly keep noah as perfect as possible, and shelter his memory from the ugliness. 

i'd like to take you on a journey i'm finally ready to share. to show you glimpses of the horror (and sometimes miracle-type comfort along with it) we endured those days he was sick. not to shock you. not to make you feel bad for us. not to make you sad. but to honor noah and the strength he endured and the peace he taught us through it. and to remind us all of what's real.

i need this to fully grieve - to go there, the dark corners where it's scary and uncomfortable. and remember what happened (to the best of my ability). because in doing so, i'm remembering him and keeping him alive.

so i will (try to) embrace it all.

it'd be a hell of a lot easier to take a vacation. but i can't do that. this is life. i choose not to escape, because that would mean, for me, escaping noah. and that's not an option.

i'll pick up the story right where i left off, the very end of our perfect day. it was the night of june 6th. we were exhausted. i remember standing in our dark room bouncing noah and trying to help him to sleep. my thought in that moment was, "well. here they are. the sleepless nights. so they begin." 

around this time a nurse walked in to check on us. as she was leaving she offhandedly mentioned that they have a nursery where they could watch him while we slept, and would bring him back to be fed. i hesitated, looked at john, then decided we might as well take advantage getting some sleep while we were there.

turns out this one tiny decision saved his life that day and allowed him to survive many more days with us. had he stayed in our dark room while we half slept, we would have missed it.

not sure how long it was after he went with the nurse (maybe a couple hours) that i was (calmly) woken up by someone telling me they noticed noah's lips and hands were turning blue so he was getting some extra oxygen. she said something like i shouldn't worry and to go back to sleep. 

and can you believe i did? i can't. but i had no reasons to fear. i also was half asleep and didn't really understand what she was saying. and she was so effing calm. so i was too. (this was one of many times john and i took the lead from health professionals on how we should be feeling, because we hadn't a clue what to feel or do... so we, for better or worse, trusted them.)

then in the early morning of june 7th we were woken up and told noah was still on oxygen. we both were led straight to see him... in the NICU. 

i had no idea he was there. i mean, looking back...duh. he was on oxygen for christ's sake. but my mind couldn't hold that information apparently. (again. the first of many times this would happen. my brain just couldn't keep up with it all.)

we walked into his room.



he had a mask fully covering his face and tubes and IVs everywhere. my baby. my boy. my heart.

i went numb. doctors and nurses spoke to us but i couldn't hear them, i didn't understand. how could i process it all? it was too much. 

i actually had the thought, "so we're not all going home today?"

sweet, naive little mccayla. sweet, clueless mccayla. sweet mama just hanging on by a thread to survive the weight of what was happening.

these were the first moments when the reality we knew, the previous reality where our world was complete with noah and we were in a state of pure bliss, began to ever so slowly unravel into a murky, dark, confusing realm where nothing made sense.

worst of all, the doctors had no real answers. it seemed like every time they would say, "we think it's this, so we're going to try that." again and again "this" wasn't it and it's "that" didn't help him. 

he was needing more and more support. more oxygen. more IVs. our boy disappeared in a sea of monitor beeps and cords.

i have a very clear memory (not too many of these from those days)...of sitting in the bathroom a couple doors down from his room with my hands shoved over my ears, wailing because i could hear his screams as they tried putting an IV into his foot. and i could do nothing to save him. my skin felt like it was intruding upon my body but i couldn't escape. i felt his screams inside me, like his pain was mine.

the horror was all around. 

at one point during the day we were told his heart was working harder than it should be. and just to hear his heart mentioned at all took us to another level of fear. 

i saw my rock-steady john break down and cry for the first time ever, that i had seen. the other times were sweet tears. out of joy - at our wedding and noah being born. so this was serious. 

near the end of the day they had done all they could do at the Overlake NICU and decided to transport him to Seattle Children's. it just kept getting worse and worse. we were spinning out of control.

it took quite awhile for the transport team to ready all of the machines and oxygen and monitors needed for a tiny, two day old baby. and then, all at once, there he went, into the ambulance. we watched our heart drive away. (following closely behind with our car.)

all throughout the day we received so much encouragement (mostly through facebook or texts) from people sharing their NICU stories or different health struggles they had with their babies and it gave us so much hope.

i also noticed another couple in the Overlake NICU coming in to visit their baby, like it was an everyday, normal thing. maybe this wasn't so bad?

the dance. the roller coaster.

down. up. 

better. worse.

hoping for the best and positive thinking would stop and stay for a bit. but fear...fear would linger. like a offensive smell that just wouldn't go away. always there. paralyzing. nausea inducing. 

the minute we walked into the Seattle Children's NICU we were greeted by the medical director who, point blank, said its one of three things: (1) it's only pulmonary hypertension, very common and treatable with some sort of gas (those weren't his words. but i don't remember 90% of what was said to me in that hospital); (2) a more serious lung and/or heart issue that might require him going on a bypass machine called ECMO, but again treatable with time, or (3) a 2% chance it could be a fatal, non-curable disease called ACD. 

noah was on ECMO by the next morning.

our roller coaster continued. but it seemed to be plummeting down.

for the next week or so, i will be sharing some of our experiences from his 13 days, and that wild ride we took with the little boy who fought at every turn to survive, to show us love as colorful as a rainbow.

A Place in the Family

i was nervous about announcing this pregnancy just like my last pregnancy with miles, and essentially for the same reason - that people would forget noah and his place in our family would be lost.

and it didn't take long for my fears to be realized. on the day we told our immediate family we heard, "how do you feel about #2?" and "yeah, you don't care as much about not eating deli meat with the second, huh?"

these comments were very painful to hear. it's like a little shock to my heart. if noah were here no one would EVER say something like that. i've been pregnant THREE TIMES. hello!!!! is noah's entire existence erased from your memory?

but it also frightened me because i sort of expected these types of comments from distant friends and acquaintances, but hearing them from close family? it made me brace myself for what was to come when our announcement went "public."

however i don't blame them, or anyone who says something like that to us. it's understandable because sometimes our brains are just dumb, and we have a momentary lapse of smarts. i trust that those nearest and dearest to us love and remember noah deeply.

i also can't blame them, because my brain is just as dumb.

months and months ago i made a comment to a dear friend of mine, on national sibling day, something about "happy only child awareness day." it was a joke. and we have made only child comments to each other a million times, for as long as i've known her. i know she identifies with being an only child, but she isn't one. before i knew her, she lost her brother when she was young. i pretty immediately realized my horrific mistake in telling her, "happy only child awareness day" on national sibling day when she had LOST HER BROTHER. i felt so embarrassed and ashamed. i should have known better. especially me, of all people, should have known better. i preach loss sensitivity to anyone who will listen, and here i was....

momentary lapse of smarts.

i know it's hard. we see miles. we don't see noah.
miles will basically always be the oldest, but noah is the big brother.

and where does baby isaac fit in? that's a really tough one for us. and, just so you know, in case you're wondering, we consider baby isaac a part of our family, but it's tricky sometimes to call him our son. just being honest. and we're still trying to figure it out. however, if he's included as one of our children from another person (like say, in a card or conversation), we are honored and don't find it odd or alarming.

it's damn confusing. i know.

so there's grace all around.

however, we're doing our best to keep both noah and baby isaac's place in our family special and sacred. they will never lose their spots.

...

i'm realizing, again, for the millionth time, how jealous i am of families who don't have to deal with all this confusion because they have very straight forward birth orders. it makes my heart hurt for us.

heavy sigh.

i'm also very aware of how jealous i am of people (me being one of them when i was pregnant with noah) who get to go into their "big, 20 week ultrasound" with the only care in world being, "boy?!?! or girl?!?!?! bahaaaaaaa! i can't wait to know!!"

our anatomy scan is in a couple days and although this pregnancy compared to miles' is drastically less fearful, i find myself increasingly anxious leading up to this ultrasound.

i wish i could just be lighthearted and excitedly wonder about whether baby is a boy or girl. and have that be my only worry in the world. but i frankly don't really care.

what i care about is four chambers in the heart. a growing brain. and everything else the baby is supposed to have.

and although there's no way to know from an ultrasound whether baby has the condition that took noah's life, i know all too well there are so many other things that could.

but, and here i go into the positive self-talk, i trust that no matter what happens - it is well. we've been through the worst life could throw at us and we're still standing, still choosing to press forward in our quest for love and family and babies. who knows what the future holds, but i do know that because of what we've experienced in the past, the future holds hope that we'll be okay.

and to the third sweet one to live in my tummy, we love you. we do. no matter what. girl...boy...kitten...whatever...you're ours.

and you've now got your special place in our family. forever and ever.

A Toast to Love

john and i attended a wedding this last weekend. on our anniversary.

and it was awesome.

it probably went down as one of our all-time favorite weddings we have ever attended.

one of the sweetest moments that made my heart swell to capacity was when the two best men (the groom's brothers) gave a toast together. it was everything an amazing toast should be. engaging, hysterical, a bit humiliating to the groom, and a love displayed authentically in ways we rarely see.

i remember thinking, if i were their parents i would be unbelievably proud. brothers who genuinely love and respect each other, stick up for each other, and can express their admiration of each other to each other. it was a beautiful thing to watch.

and then my heart ached a little.

at the end of night, my heart ached again, as i realized for the millionth time, how much of a profound impact noah has on my every day, every waking moment of, life.

the groom got up to thank everyone for coming and said, "we realize this is the only time in our lives where all of the people we love will be together in one room. and that is so special."

he's right. that is so, so special. and i would have said the same thing on our wedding day. but he's wrong. at least, in our experience.

we had a baby that died. and noah's memorial service where we celebrated his life was in the same room where john and i said our marriage vows and celebrated the beginning of our life together. and it was eerie, and weird, and mind-blowing, and out-of-body because the room was filled with almost all of the same people who were at our wedding. the circumstance was obviously different, but the love felt the same. the reason all these people in our world were brought back together was just another side of the same coin.

the beginning of a marriage is so hopeful. the start of an amazing, wonderful life. we'll have lots of kids. we'll grow old together. a happily ever after. i don't want to say we're all a little naive at the very beginning. but, yeah, maybe a little naive. (as probably it should be!)

had i been able to, i surely would have written a different story for john and i. a marriage without so much tragedy and heart-break. less fear. less stress. and for god sake's, less loss. to be perfectly honest, i look at some other people's marriages and think, how in the world did they get it so easy? obviously i don't know what goes on behind closed doors, but from the outside, some people's lot in life seems pretty damn good.

but our story is ours. only ours. and i'm proud of us. because of the hell we've been through, and still find ourselves in, we're becoming stronger. i can feel it. and as we persevere, we choose to keep loving, even when it looks ugly. there is still joy. thank god. there is still joy.

we're different people now than the wee ones we married five years ago, but that's okay. because we're still together. we are growing and changing together. and accepting the other however they come (at least trying to). and there isn't one moment in any day that i don't take the john butler i married or the john butler of today for granted. because i know all too very well that life is frighteningly fragile and we are not guaranteed any tomorrows, i will say yes to john butler for as many tomorrows as i'm given.

and as insane as this sounds, sometimes i'm grateful for what we've been through because we have seen things and experienced things in our marriage that others don't even get to scratch the surface of. an intimacy that can't be duplicated any other way, but through huddling together on an island of sorrow only we know.

to sum it up so perfectly only in the way she can, the following were words written and spoken by one of our dearest on the night of our wedding.

and with my blinders off and my nativity shot, i say:

so be it.

Miracle Miles Wasn't The First

on june 18, 2013 we realized we didn't get the miracle we were all hoping and praying for.

noah died. he was not healed of his fatal disease.

every single moment during those 12 days noah was so, so sick, i wanted so badly to believe that he would recover, would get to come home, would become a living testimony of the wonderful, amazing and powerful God we prayed to. i specifically remember one time in prayer weeping the words, "....heal noah, and we'll give You all the glory." with every shred of faith i could muster, i poured my soul out to God. repeatedly. i begged. i pleaded. i surrendered. i believed.

i had hope. maybe too much.

the miracle, as i imagined, didn't come.

like any other relationship in my life, when i'm hurt by someone i shut down. i shy away. i close them off. i'm afraid of getting hurt again. so obviously when The Biggest, Most Important Relationship of My Entire Life and Being seemingly turns away, doesn't intervene, and allows for the greatest disappointment i will ever know - my darling, {desperately long awaited, all i've ever wanted} boy's death ... it shattered me.

it is for this reason, to this day, i sort of avoid God. He's there. i know. i just don't look at Him straight in the eye. or speak to Him directly, let alone ask for anything. too risky. i've already presented my most sacred petition and was met with, from where i stood, silence.

but last night something beautiful happened. i prayed for someone i love very much who is hurting. i still wasn't able to ask God to change her circumstances or give her this or that or whatever. but i just was silent for awhile. still, in His presence. listening for what He had to say. for her. for me...

and i felt love. i felt peace. and in a war-torn, mess of a heart - that's a miracle.

miracles are so tricky. there is so much more i don't understand than what i do.

as i go through this confusing faith journey with a God i love but am not really on speaking terms with, i have become more and more convinced that prayer isn't about asking as much as it is about simply receiving what has already been given.

and what i know for sure, (and don't quote me on this, i'm a bible school drop out) is that a miracle is so much more than an answered prayer - a glorious, praise God, Hallelujah(!) moment. i mean, it is that. however, i have come to understand, and know firsthand, that a miracle is whenever God shows up and answers a prayer i didn't even know i had, or wanted. because He's pure goodness. pure Love.

when i was pregnant with miles he acquired the nickname, "miracle miles." and while i 100% agree and have completely embraced that truth, i never forget he wasn't the first.

it would have been easy to say noah's life was a miracle had he been healed from ACD and were still with us today. but it would be impossible for me to deny the millions of miracles that have occurred because noah lived at all.

relationships, two specifically in our immediate family, that were filled with (speaking for myself) misunderstandings, bitterness and brokenness, completely restored. healed to a point of no recognition. pure miracle.

countless stories of people who's lives are changing and faiths deepened.

a greater clarity (like the type of clarity i know and feel down to my bones) of what friendship and love of others LOOKS like, in action. because it was shown to us.

the pure fact i'm still alive and not bitter beyond recognition. 

....for these and the millions of other seen and unseen, known or never known reasons - noah's life was a miracle and his legacy continues to be a miracle. 

a miracle, no matter how grand or how slight, is but a glimpse. a peek into heaven. a reminder that this world, with all it's pain, retirement plans, and superficial bullshit, is not all there is. there is so much more. beyond what we could ever possibly know right now, on this side.  

so God, this is my humble prayer: show up. and may i be brave enough to have the eyes to see where.

"miracles are your memorial,

the promise of wonders to come"

-greater than all, hillsong

Just Doesn't Feel Right

there are some things about grief, and how it manifests itself in my life, that i don't even notice until it's brought to my attention.

i had the "ah-ha!" moment in support group a few weeks ago. one of the other mothers in our group mentioned offhandedly that she hasn't really worn any color since her baby girl died. i hadn't even noticed. but it was true. every time i saw her, she was wearing black or gray. and you know what she said about it?

it wasn't really a conscious decision that i made, 
wearing color just didn't feel right.

hearing that, i may have very well gasped. like so many other times in our support group, i heard words only heard in my heart coming from her.

up until very recently, i hadn't really listened to music at all since noah died.

when i drove in the car, the radio stayed off. silence.

i had no idea of any new albums being released, let alone make any sort of effort to get my hands on them. completely out of touch in that whole, entire scene.

i don't even really know where i would find my iPod.

leading worship. listening to worship music. what was once a huge part of my life and my identity. gone.

this was not a conscience thing. i never said to myself. i'm just not going to listen to music anymore. that's that. it wasn't like deciding to become a vegetarian. i had no reasons or justifications. i obviously didn't even really notice it was happening.

music just didn't feel right. almost offensive even.
maybe i felt just too vulnerable. like salt on an open wound.

grief is so weird. it changes you. changes you in ways that most of time you don't understand.

as i've been thinking about it... like, what in the world? why did she stop wearing color? why did i stop listening to music? i'm pretty sure it comes down to how we experience life's beauty. for whatever reason. and how we are physically unable to, in certain ways, when we are literally heartbroken. i guess our souls make decisions for us sometimes when we're trying to survive.

simply said - it's just not as easy to experience joy now. at least not in the ways it once was experienced, before our worlds were shaken off their axis. and in the places where sweetness and light naturally show up in life (ie. color or music) - grief does what it does. and smothers joy wherever it can.

i still have joy. it's just different. it looks different. feels way different.

because i'm different.

when a woman buries her child, 

everything she does is colored by that experience.

there's a hole in her soul that changes who she is.

-iyanla vanzant

***

lately, by some miracle, music has quietly, without fanfare, crept back onto the scene.

sufjan stevens' carrie & lowell,
mumford and sons' wilder mind,
bethel's we will not be shaken...

they're speaking my language.

dark. often mysterious. with rays of hope.

as is my soul.

The Delicate Balance: Heartbreak and Hearthope

i think about blogging everyday. there's so much i'm feeling and churning around in my little brain that i could write and write and write and never run out of content.

but it's like i lost my voice. i don't know how else to describe it. 

i've gone hoarse screaming for the last two years. trying to communicate, in any way that makes sense, what a broken heart looks like, feels like. 

it's exhausting. so i went silent.

i also went silent because i bought the lie that people don't care anymore. the drama chasers and sob story enthusiasts are all but gone, on to the next tragedy. our story isn't as exciting anymore. our "happy ending" came so ... 

booooorrrriiinnnngggggg. 

but i refuse to let that lie linger or feed it in any way by going silent. because, my friends, i must give voice to our experience and remember why i started writing publically in the first place.

it is my desire that this blog, these simple words on a computer screen, will somehow bring healing, comfort and hope to each person who stumbles upon them... and i pray to me too.

maybe i'll post everyday. maybe i won't. but what is for sure is that i will share my heart. my questions. my joy. my confusion. my pain. and my Jesus. i would love for you to join me as we journey through this mess of loss ... it may not always be pretty, but it is real. (first post, 7/16/13)

here's the reality - the last couple months have been the absolute hardest for me since immediately losing noah. we're talking panic attacks, deep depression, weeping, unkindness to my husband, and unbelievable fear and stress. there are a variety of circumstances that heightened these emotions... (an arrival of a brand new niece, managing family expectations, dealing with disappointment when he's seemingly forgotten, seeing people who were pregnant when i was pregnant with noah welcoming their second baby...all these each blog posts of their own), but they are all rooted in the same truth: 

i miss noah and i want my other life back.

i grieve that i'll never get to say, my family is complete. 

i'll never get over how hard it is to hear, can we get a picture with the whole family? no. no, we can never. because my whole family is not here.

in processing with my support group and others who have experienced infant loss, i'm learning how seriously God-awful approaching the two year anniversary is. and let me tell you, from my experience (and that's the only one i can speak from) it. was. hard.

but now i'm in it. we're here. noah's special days. the 13 days he was alive on this earth were two years ago right now. june 5th - june 18th 
#13daysofrainbows

and it's still hard. memories of those beautiful, perfect first 24 hours he was healthy and the hellish 12 days that followed. pure hell in its truest form. 

but of course there was beauty too in each one of those 13 days of 2013. because noah.

that delicate balance of heartbreak and hearthope reminds me of yesterday. 

yesterday we celebrated miles' first birthday. (his real birthday is tomorrow, but yesterday was saturday. so..) 

there was family. there was swimming. there was cake. there was joy. it was a sweet time.

however, as i cried on the shoulder of my ever-patient husband that night. i realized again...

even when i'm happy, i'm sad. 

everything i have reminds me of everything i don't. and everything i don't have reminds me of what i do. all the time. 

here's just one small way that translates into my daily life.

for miles' party i made one of these blackboard poster things:

it's made with metallic markers drawn on a poster board. a poster board that i had had in an area we keep a lot of noah's special things. it had already been purposed for something else two years ago and it wasn't until a few days ago when i put it in my kitchen window to display, that i was outside and caught the other side.

seeing it, my heart literally lept out of my chest. there was my sweet noah boy, almost life-sized and right there in front of me. (for those of you who attended noah's memorial service, you'll remember it was one of the pictures displayed.) 

and did you notice another precious little boy in the picture? in the window reflection?

when i had grabbed my phone to take a picture of this noah moment, miles ran across the shot behind me, right as the picture took.

it made me smile.

i see noah everywhere. and everywhere i see miles.

this one picture so amazingly represents my simultaneous heartbreak and hearthope that i feel every day, but especially today on the eve of miles' first birthday.

miles is here. and we got him for an entire year. (and i can only hope for a hundred more.) he's filled with joy, wonder, curiosity and love. i literally cannot contain my thankfulness that he's getting older and i get to witness it up close.

however, in the same breath, noah is not here. he will forever be a tiny, tiny baby who lost the chance to grow older. we'll never know how he would've been as a toddler or a big brother or a son. we only can imagine. every year that passes will be another year we didn't get. and that pain is deep. 

i have a one year old and a would-have-been two year old.

so i will never understand when someone is actually sad to see their baby grow up. my sweet baby is growing up! *sad face* 

or what completely messes me up is when someone actually says about their child, stop growing up! 

now, i get it. i understand the sentiment. our children are dear to us and a preschool graduation can really open the water works on that. i really do get it.

but for christ's sake, isn't growing up the whole point?!

i already know what it feels like to have babies who will never grow up. and trust me, forever babies are not that great in reality.

so, miles. my birthday wish for you:

keep growing. 

grow strong and healthy. 

continue to be that joy and light spreader that you are. 

and your mama and daddy will cherish every stage of life you have, only excited for the next.

you go, dude. keep having birthdays. we're cheering you on all the way, everyday.
happy birthday, miles.

and always. happy birthday, noah.